Navigating Social Isolation: Understanding Why People May Not Want to Talk to You

Haha, this happens to me all the time, and trust me, people do act like this: they want to know you, then abandon you for no really good reason. It has happened to me many times. But I would suggest you to be content. What else can you do? Enjoy life!

Ignoring or Being Ignored?

Yes, especially if you have nothing good to say. Or maybe it isn’t you. They might be dealing with their own stuff. Sometimes there is just a vibe in the air. It’s life, and tomorrow is another day.

Deciding What to Say

Well, it really depends on what you need to say that particular day. For example, ‘I’ve had constipation for three whole weeks! they won’t listen!
Let’s go to church and pray! probably not interested!
I’m financially broke till next month! definitely not interested!
I’ve just won 3 million dollars on the lottery; can you help me check my ticket? You got the best listener in the world, and an instant best friend, bodyguard, etc. undefined response!
The point is, perhaps be more fun and make some obvious shit up. A boring truth or an interesting lie?

Your Behavior Matters

Yes, it’s a normal thing, but sometimes your behavior also defines it. If you are rude and impolite to others, or people know you are very little talkative, it makes it worse.

Anyone has their individual human rights not to want to speak to me, just as I have the right not to speak to them. If someone wanted to speak, they would.

Understanding Expectations

It is abnormal to expect people to want to talk to you unless they want something from you. It’s probably better that they don’t want to talk to you, unless you are selling something.

Questioning Your Feelings

There are some questions that should come into your mind:

Do you feel that with everyone, every time, with a few people every time, or sometimes with everyone? Is this a natural thing, and everyone feels this with someone else at some point in time? Does this issue lie on your side, the other person’s side, or both?

Feeling this sometimes can indicate an inferiority complex, depression, sadistic, or pessimistic personality. It could also mean that the topics or content of the matter you speak about isn’t good, and you don’t speak it correctly. As a result, people don’t show interest in talking to you.

Furthermore, it’s very important to realize that people today are not always with happy faces. They don’t want to show interest in talking to you unless you try first and seem a little interesting to them. This is what bothers a person like you and makes you feel like they don’t want to talk to you.

What Can You Do?

My opinion would always be to at least try talking to them without making up your mind before hand about if they want to talk to you or not. Get rid of that hesitation.

Just in case, after you do try to talk to them and still they show their disinterest, try to find out why. There will always be a reason behind it. They might have a temporary issue or you might have such a repulsive personality, or they might be very content in their social circle and love life, not wanting to connect with any new person.

Find the reason. Then think if you can do something about it. Think if you should do something about it. You can’t make everyone talk to you, and you shouldn’t try to.